Dependence: Not a dirty word in a long-term partnership

Scientific research shows we are “hardwired” to have attachments to, or “need”, other people. So everybody get over being so independent! “Co-dependence” was made up by a guy who didn’t like his wife. Couples are meant to be dependent on one another. This is a good thing. Embrace it!

– Carrie

Relationships are hard. And the good ones require that one drop all of those hard-earned defenses that we value so highly. And dropping those defenses, with the very person who could hurt you the most, is a big leap for most people. But it’s the only path to a truly rewarding relationship. If you expose yourself to the right person, it’s a great thing. If you expose yourself to the wrong person, it’s a misdemeanor. But seriously, if you make yourself vulnerable and it doesn’t work out – then it wasn’t the right relationship, and honestly you’re better off.

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I'm a content editor in Washington, DC. Have been working on the interweb for years. I have a toddler, a house, a spouse and two cats. I'm trying not to write exclusively about the cats.
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