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As if the book weren’t exciting enough, on June 2nd, I’m going to see John Waters speak at the Smithsonian as part of their fantastic Resident Associates program. Check out John Waters: An Unconventional Self-Portrait.

John Waters is a cult icon. In his new book, Role Models, Waters discusses some of the entertainers, murderers, fashion designers, artists, strippers, deviants, and pornographers that he admires for various reasons. Running themes seem to be honesty and clarity of vision. Waters cheerfully calls his heroes on their bullshit and shows them off in their unvarnished glory. Would you expect anything less?

In a chapter about former Manson follower and current convicted murderer Leslie Van Houten, Waters describes first his morbid interest in the Manson family and then the development of an unlikely and enduring friendship with Van Houten that has spanned her decades in prison. It seems like his long experience with the grotesque has prepared him well to see and acknowledge the circus of horror and cut straight to the humanity. What we’re left with is a portrait of Van Houten that is clear-eyed and not cloying. Full with regret, but not asking for the favor of forgiveness because, well, would it really be right for her to ask for favors? He says she has the patience, “not to find religious fanaticism that would forgive her instantly and take away responsibilities for her actions.” Isn’t that beautiful? That’s not a statement one jots down lightly – Waters has given this a lot of thought.

He also answers one of my favorite questions for people who are in the public eye and so get a lot of stupid questions – “what question do you hate and hope to never have to answer again?” For Waters, this question seems to be “Do you have a hobby?” His all caps reply: “DO I LOOK LIKE A FUCKING DABBLER?!” Love it. Of course, he also mentions loathing the Great Dog Shit Question of All Time

At the end of the book, when I was racing downhill to the end zone, Waters speculates about what a perfume with his name would smell like. He mentions “Odorama” cards – which I actually remember, and were my first Waters experience. My parents went out on a rare date night “to see Polyester. When they got home, they showed us kids the cards. We were accustomed to scratch and sniff books with scents like “peppermint,” and “grape.” Imagine our surprise.

It’s honest, gleeful, benefits from a short attention span, and is generally awesome. He writes about the art he collects (describing the artists as his roommates), and the heroes who made him nervous. He describes with relish seeking out the scariest bars I’ve ever heard of, and how he nurtures his trademark mustache. It’s squalid and filthy and gorgeous – kind of like the clothes by his favorite designer.

• An excerpt on The Huffington Post – Leslie Van Houten: A Friendship
• An interview with Waters on Kansascity.com
• A review of Role Models on Bookforum.com
• The Education of John Waters – Baltimore Sun

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Not a command, Bite Me is the title of the latest novel by Christopher Moore. If you’ve had the good fortune to read any of Moore’s previous books, you know why I picked his latest. It’s bound to be fast-paced, funny, gripping and ludicrous (in a good way).

This is Moore’s third venture in the vampire vein (heh). His previous contributions on the theme include You Suck and Bloodsucking Fiends. This isn’t the Twilight saga, and while Moore often explores The Dark Side, it tends to be an oafish, flailing dark side with a bad sense of direction. If you’re looking for longing, brooding or sparkling, look elsewhere. Here you’ll find slapstick, drama and snappy repartee riddled with sarcasm. In fact, I’d call Moore’s writing “humor with a heart,” but that would leave out the very important fantasy element, since most of his books have impossible creatures in them – vampires, a giant lizard, a ravenous man-eating demon, the messiah… and I’m totally looking forward to reading this one.  I hope you enjoy.

I’ll post some thoughts on the book on June 20th. If the spirit moves you, let me know what you think about the book, Moore’s other work, my work here, the weather… whatev.

Confession

This selection is partly an excuse for me to ping Moore’s people and see if I can coax him into responding to a few questions. Mostly so I can gush to him about how much I enjoy his work and envy him what must be a very fulfilling career. Wish me luck.

What a great book, no?

Narrated by Cal, a man living in Berlin describing his girlhood in Michigan, this is the story of a family and an era. It’s several love stories – many of them forbidden for various reasons. The message I got is that at least half of love is anguish. Guilt, dread and fear are natural elements of the emotional broth in which love steeps. Wow, that was overwrought. Sorry.

But this book has that effect on me. It makes me slow down and think about the details a little. Taking just a moment to seek out the best path to explication, rather than the freeform ranting full of acronyms in which I usually indulge. Cultivating an eye for lush detail, like this:

“Over the years the Zebra Room had absorbed the exhalations of its auto worker patrons. The place smelled of their beer and hair tonic, their punch-clock misery, their frayed nerves, their trade unionism.”

Isn’t that beautiful? Doesn’t it conjure an incredibly vivid image, even though it describes the actual physical details of the Zebra Room not at all? This is advanced noveling, kids.

Says friend Denise, who selected this book: “I loved the poetic way the assembly line was described. The whole story just captured me. I’m not typically one to pick up books set in Detroit or immigration/identity stories, but I’m glad I did this time.”

I’m totally with her. It deftly walks the line of being poetic without being baroque or self-indulgent. There aren’t any short cuts.

One of the other amazing things about Middlesex is that Eugenides never goes for the cheap shot. There are a lot of easy gags in here, but it’s all written with such sensitivity, and the narrator is such a thoughtful soul that there is never an eye-rolling moment, rim shot or cheap joke. As a culture, we have a snickering relationship with sex and gender, and this book transcends a lot of that – allowing the reader to relax and look frankly at untouchable subjects like incest, gender identity and sexuality that is more complex than either/or. And it’s a helluva story.

Many thanks to Denise for selecting this book!

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“And thus it was that my assistant, Kathryn, and I spent the afternoon ranging about lower Manhattan in search of tarts.” Does this sound like a pretty nice way to make a living, or is it just me? But its not all fun and games. Some of the tarts collected for this exhaustive taste-test were suboptimal – with tough or even mealy crusts. Gasp.

Jeffrey Steingarten has carved out a pretty awesome niche for himself (and his assistant) researching some of the finest foods available. From sea urchin to the best dry-aged steaks on the market, to tarts, Steingarten has compiled another compelling guide to some of the world’s finest foodstuffs.

He’s a fanatic, it’s true, but his deep and abiding interest is of the kind that grows out of love and so is a joy to read. His enthusiasm is infectious and his style is refined, self-aware (I was going to say self-deprecating, but that’s inaccurate), and very  good-humored. He also puts in the work – in the research, in the kitchen and in the writing – that makes this book neither precious nor self-indulgent.

I so loved his first compilation of investigative culinary features -  The Man Who Ate Everything – that I immediately and cheerfully dove right into It Must’ve Been Something I Ate, and was not disappointed. I am, however, kind of a squeamish omnivore, and must admit that I skipped the chapter about slaughtering a pig. Perhaps someone who’s read it would like to fill us in?

Many thanks to Flash for recommending this book!

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In a follow-up to my earlier post about Do More Great Work, author Michael Bungay Stanier has kindly agreed to answer a few questions and share some advice on how to make your work work for you.

Why am I finding this subject so captivating? My workplace philosophy so far has been “when in doubt, work harder.” It is slowly (yes yes, too slowly)  dawning on me that this is perhaps not always the answer and doesn’t produce the best results – for me personally or professionally, or for the work or my employer. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that it can even be – gasp – frustrating  when you feel like you’re working flat-out and not getting stellar results.

So, if I can beat myself up less while getting better results and improving my job satisfaction and the satisfaction of my job with me? That sounds pretty awesome.

Michael Bungay Stanier offers a strategy to focusing your efforts,

• Do More Great Work, the blog post
• Do More Great Work, the Web site

You’ve included 15 “maps” or hands-on exercises to help people identify their strengths and goals. Was there one really good one that didn’t make the cut?

Well, there’s a 16th map people can find at www.DoMoreGreatWork.com which is about “Who Really Matters?” and it helps you decide which relationships are most important for you to nourish

You mention in the book that you transitioned from a career in marketing to one in personal development and executive coaching. What was your “ah ha” moment, when you first saw your new path?

It was more an experience of whittling away what wasn’t right until I was left with what was. In some ways, I’ve been involved in coach-like activities for most of my life. One of the key tipping points was when I lost my job as an internal change agent within a big company, and I started Box of Crayons. Suddenly, the question of “what are you doing?” was more apparent.

In one of the exercises, you suggest making a list of people (real and fictional) we admire. I love your idea of thinking of them as a virtual board of advisers, helping us to chart our own best path. Care to tell us about one or two people on your board?

Sure thing. Buzz Lightyear – love his “to infinity and beyond” sense of anything is possible. Peter Block, who’s a brilliant writer about taking responsibilitiy for your choices. Guy Laliberte, the founder of Cirque du Soleil who combines creativity and joy with business savvy.

What’s the best piece of career advice you’ve ever received?

“Don’t take any advice.” I’m only half in jest when I say that. The most recent piece of wisdom that I find helpful is “make everything a project” – that makes the start and finish of things much clearer, rather than getting sucked into “business as usual”

And what’s the best piece of other advice? (cooking, home maintenance, school… whatever)

Last week Marshall Goldsmith said, you have a choice to be happy or not be happy. Chose to be happy.